The more we pay attention to the subtleties of our life lessons, the more we challenge everything that we were taught up to this point. For example, when relationships are defined with blanket statements of altruism, it is difficult for many of us to feel included in having experienced that.
Here are some definitions of friendship:
Friends will be there when you are down.
Are they there for you for YOU, or are you distracting them from their own issues? Who set this dynamic up? Is it always one-sided? Do you both use problems as a way to relate to each other?
Friends will never let you down.
This is a lot of pressure on a friend. What kind of person are you to expect this? What kind of dynamic are you setting up for yourself?
Friends always listen to your problems.
Why are you always talking about problems? How is their health? Usually people who listen to other people’s problems are in physical pain as the emotional weight of them weighs on their physical body. Also, what dysfunctional dynamic was set up where people are habitually unloading on each other?
These are statements that I have heard in the name of friendship:
They tell you something devastating for the sake of not wanting to see you get hurt.
They just hurt you. Maybe they just wanted to be the one to do it.
They talk you out of something that you want to do because they don’t want to see you make a mistake.
Life is for making mistakes. They have just put a glass ceiling on top of you.
They level you because they don’t want you to get your hopes up.
Hopes should be up! Hopes should soar. How else does one manifest wonder?
Here are some taps to assist:
(Say each statement three times while tapping on your head and say it a fourth time while tapping on your chest.)
I release keeping unhealthy friendships out of fear of being alone, in all lifetimes.
I release keeping unhealthy friendships out of habit, in all lifetimes.
I release attracting unhealthy friendships, in all lifetimes.
I release the glass ceilings friends have put on me, in all lifetimes.
I release the fear of outgrowing friends, in all lifetimes.
I remove all expectations between myself and friends, in all lifetimes.
I recant all vows and agreements between myself and my friends, in all lifetimes.
I dissolve all karmic ties between myself and all friends, in all lifetimes.
I remove all the pain, burden, and limitations that friends and I have put on each other, in all lifetimes.
I take back all the Joy, Love, Abundance, Freedom, Health, Success and Wholeness that all friends have taken from me, in all lifetimes.
I give back all the Joy, Love, Abundance, Freedom, Health, Success, and Wholeness that I have taken from all friends, in all lifetimes.
The only reason to stay connected to someone else is through a love bond with them. If it is a love bond, nothing can detract from it. But to rid one’s self of all those tiny distractions and sabotages that one overlooks in friends is priceless. Freedom is priceless.