Technique to Adopt a Non-Reactive Stance

We are a vibrant ball of energy. Our interactions, on a more subtle level aren’t merely a matter of not bumping into each other physically. It is also important to avoid bumping into each other on more subtle levels as well. On an emotional level, this would look like two people yelling and crying in a dramatic scene. In the mental realms, it would look like two people debating issues and trying to one-up the other. Others try to compete with us in the energetic realms. They try to show superiority in some way. They poke a stick at us and expect a reaction so they can engage us. They make their energy field more firm by stating absolute truths or stating strong opinions. On an emotional level they will get louder and put more energy behind their point of view. There is no need to respond. They are attempting to cause a reaction in you and affect you by making you harden your own energy. It is not necessary. The most empowering way to respond is to step back and NOT respond. It is a way to control yourself in the energetic realms and may take much discipline. After […]

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Become a Toxic-Free Zone

People try to pull us into their drama. They try to get us to debate them or entice us with gossip. They try to pull us down to their level by piquing our curiosity, stroking our ego or stirring an emotional response. If we don’t respond, they get their feelings hurt. They may accuse us of cutting them off or acting superior. They may even accuse us of judging them. These are unconscious manipulative techniques to keep us engaged with them. Here are some responses to have handy to get yourself free: “I really don’t want to listen to others problems. I have enough on my plate with my own issues.” “I care about you, but you are not your problems. Let me hear about you”. “I don’t watch the news. Not interested.” “I don’t engage in current events, it is a waste of energy.” “I don’t talk about others. I don’t want them talking about me.” “What you are talking about makes me feel wilted. I will have to disengage soon.” “Tell me good things.” You can ignore all the negative statements and when they say something positive, reward them with being engaged. I use the following for shock […]

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Freedom to Hold Your Truth In

I used to think that I had to let people know how I was feeling in every instance. If I was dissatisfied with service, they had to be made aware if it. Through my tone, mannerisms and body language, I was going to let them know that I was disappointed. This behavior is called passive aggressive. For myself it originated in this lifetime by living with people who didn’t care how I felt and never asked me my opinion or preference on anything. My life was not my own. The only way to convey my truth and to be validated was by removing my happy countenance from the equation. Anything else would get me a smash across the face. These were the training tactics used by good parents of the day. A light bulb went off when I realized that I didn’t have to visit my displeasure on every service person I interacted with. They were doing the best they could. If I was in a mood, I could contain it. There was much freedom in this epiphany. I could leave everyone in the same state I found them or better. I no longer burdened the world with my disapproval; […]

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Being A Good Person

Sometimes being a good person is more than just mouthing words of encouragement that others want to hear. Sometimes it means advocating for someone who others would prefer to shun. Sometimes it is having compassion for an issue when others would prefer to sweep it under the rug. Sometimes it is taking the unfavorable stance; not to prove a point but because there are real people with real feelings and real problems to factor in. Sometimes it may entail being unpopular. The question is: are you going to be a good person, or do you just want to think of yourself as one? Some people are lonely and want to fit in. Some people are suffering with a dilemma and trying to maneuver through it. Many are desperately trying to make sense of their life, society, God, and their place in the mix of it. Some just want to turn off the barrage of thoughts, and emotional angst that seems to string their existence together. Did you know it is illegal in many states to say that you can heal? It makes sense because of all the abuse that will come from that statement. But it is legal to administer drugs […]

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Be Light as a Feather

Problems are like feathers. One or two are light enough and we think nothing of holding them for others. But when they start to pile on, they can get heavier and heavier. It is best if we are going to listen to them, to let them blow away right afterwards. But when we think about them, or worse, discuss them with others, or dwell on them, it is like syrup that causes them to stick to us. Some people walk around carrying a whole pie of feathers and if you try to tell them, they will think that you are being ridiculous because one feather is so light. It gets to the point that people can tell the feather carriers and know where to take all their extra feathers. The kinder thing to do is for everyone to send their problems in the wind and release them to dissolve into Love and Light.

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