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When Someone takes Their Own Life

When someone takes their own life, there is a shroud of depression that blankets the ones that are left behind.  It is more than a disappointment about letting their loved one down.  Their guilt and emotional pain is keeping them open to one who has killed themselves.

On the other side, the one who took their life immediately regrets their actions. They are begrudgingly held accountable. This learning period is more intense than whatever they were experiencing on earth. This is where they must face themselves and their actions.

I have had many sessions with people who were depressed after their relative killed themselves.  They felt that they were the only one who understood the person and that they had let them down.  They fall into a depression that is similar to what the deceased was experiencing. Through sympathy, the deceased may actually be trying to pull a loved one to the other side for comfort.  That is why relatives sometimes feel like dying after someone they love is gone.

Relatives will pick up bad habits that the deceased had.  They will smoke, or crave certain foods. The deceased is using the sympathy of the relative to feed their own drug/alcohol/ eating/smoking habit through the body of the relative. When this happens, tough love is necessary. All empathy, guilt and sympathy for the one who ended their life must dry up for balance to return.

The living will have to stop thinking and feeling bad about the deceased.  It would be best to put them in the hands of the spirit guide that you are most comfortable with, bless them, and then think of them no more until emotional balance returns and bad habits dry up. It is best for all concerned.

Crossing over does NOT automatically assign angelic traits to someone who was struggling here. The harsh truth of the matter is; earth is where we learn our lessons. To have a great afterlife, do everything to learn the lessons here.  If there are issues that are being skirted, you will have to one day deal with them.  The more work that’s done here, the better travels are on the other side.

I have seen happiness return immediately to individuals once they have used tough love regarding the deceased. I have even helped depressed people let go of their deceased relative. As painful as it is, light and relief flood instantaneously into the energy field when this happens. And if you are suicidal or know someone who is; please know that whatever your troubles are, they do not compare to the stark reality of what happens, once you pull the trigger.

On a more uplifting note: This life is a pure gift! Even the most horrendous experiences are a means to appreciate greater joy.  If you are being influenced by suicidal thoughts, change your vantage point. Get outside of your head and beef up nutrition. Kick a habit, take a walk outside, do something nice for someone else.  The strength you gain by pulling yourself out of a fog will be an accomplishment that none can touch.  You will have owned it.

4 Comments on “When Someone takes Their Own Life

ttcacia
February 12, 2010 at 10:30 pm

‘When someone takes their own life” article was just what i needed to read. In 2003, a very good friend of mine committed suicide 2 years after he won a battle with guillan barre disease. Very devastating for me of course, because he always told me that if the disease came back, he would kill himself. I didnt think he meant it. The weirdest thing about this article is when it says that the person who took their own life immediately regrets it. When i found out he took his life, that was exactly what came into my head -“he’s so regrets that he did that” “he wishes he could take it back”.It was like i was feeling what he was feeling. Followed by numerous dreams where he is saying to me “i’m sorry, teresa, i just couldn’t take it anymore. And we just hug in the dreams. i have them all the time. i dont know what they mean really. My exsister-in law took me to a doctor because i was so depressed. It helped a lot to talk about it. Here’s the kicker- My exsister-in-law, who i was very close with killed herself october 22nd 2008!! It was a shock to everyone. Still no one knows why. I feel like i’m plaqued by this.Suicide really does kill all involved. I do follow you on twitter, but for the life of me, i cant figure it out yet. hopefully, this will come soon. Thank You for your time and this article!!

auntjen
February 14, 2010 at 1:45 am

Thankyou for sharing your story and validating the exact scenario that I wrote about. I truly hope the article helps you to move pass this experience and enjoy living again. I am sending you Love to help lighten your heart.

If I could suggest a technique for you. Visualize having a talk with your friend. You have to say good bye to him. Tell him no more hugs. Be very firm. Cut off all thoughts of him and maybe remove sentimental things from your home that remind you of him. You must totally pull away to reclaim your happiness.

If this doesn’t work, I would suggest scheduling a private session. Good Luck and God Bless!

Chantaye
December 12, 2010 at 12:00 am

huh… thank you for suggesting this. I never considered that I have looked at my father’s death as a suicide. He took a bet and binged drank himself into a coma and died in front of me when I was 9 or should I say he was pronounced dead within 30 minutes of arriving at the hospital. I have held myself responsible for my family and how they all responded after his death. I occassionally bing drink as well. When he died we lived in a two story home, with a white picket fence in a neighborhood in which I walked to and from school with my little brother. This was the last time that there was that type of “homely” structure in my life. It never occurred to me that it is also the last time that my mother has lived in a house versus an apartment. I never knew the impact that my father’s death truly has had on me and my life. Thank you.

auntjen
January 10, 2011 at 12:03 pm

Chantaye, You too are a great candidate for a private session. It feels in many ways you are stuck in the 9 year old experience and were robbed the ability to grow into a stronger more effective energy. It is an experience that many deal with but it isn’t pleasant or necessary. I send you Love! If I could suggest a technique for you. Imagine a beautiful loving angel that just fills a neutral room. Go to the Angel and feel the Angel pour Love into you. Start as a Baby. Visualize the Angel holding you as a Baby. Have the Angel comfort you at the age of nine. Then visualize the Angel Loving you every year of age after that until the Angel is loving you at your present age. Feel the Love and surrender to it as it pours into you and Heals you. I send my Love as well.

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