In facilitating private sessions, I have realized that the tone of the voice is important when doing the taps. There are many ways a client will sabotage their effectiveness in doing the taps. They will say them really fast leaving no spaces between the words and they will say the phrases totally opposite and not even realize. Sometimes they will say the phrases in a sing-song way or very dramatically, which emphasizes the ego.
Another huge way people doing taps will sabotage their effectiveness is the tone of their voice. If they are sabotaging themselves, they will raise the tone at the end of a sentence. It will sound like a question instead of a firm statement. It takes a lot of instruction to correct this in a client who is using it for a sabotage.
In America, the common tone of a sentence will end on a lower note. This is more definitive than ending it in a higher tone. Ending a sentence on a higher note is a more receptive stance and a way of asking questions. But other cultures use a higher inflection at the end of a sentence in general. It is viewed as less aggressive.
I was working with a client from another continent. I had to teach her how to lower her inflections at the end of the sentence. I explained to her that if she ever needs to get someone’s attention and have them take her seriously, that she should make her inflections lower at the end of a sentence. She was concerned it would offend people.
It was then that I realized why Americans may be viewed as rude in other parts of the world. It may be because the natural inflections of so many Americans is lower at the end. This natural tone in an American’s voice may be viewed as rude or bossy. If this is the case, it is very easy to fix. Pay attention to the interactions of different people and notice the dynamics for yourself. See how your own affects how people respond to you. Make a shift within yourself if you can. It is very empowering.