Fear is an important tool when used correctly. It is a primal signal to the brain to prevent harm to the body. The fear of fire is an instilled response that can be programmed one of two ways. Either someone has experienced being burned or someone they trust transfers their experience with fire onto them.
The process of reacting to fear is the brain acknowledging something that has previously harmed it. In a split moment the brain scans all past memory banks to recognize an incoming experience as dangerous. The sole purpose of fear is to prevent harm. It’s a great tool.
Fear is beneficial when dealing with the unknown. There’s danger in dealing with issues that there’s no outer experience with. The subtle perceptions of the self detect seemingly intangible warning signs for you to beware.
People should not delve into alternative practices without learning what is involved. They should learn all they can from an expert before moving forward. One should learn how not to “get burned” before proceeding. If something is intriguing, most likely, there is some kind of past experience with it in your memory banks. You may have mastered it in a past life. But if something is fearful, your own sense of self is telling you to stay away from it as a form of protection.
Practitioners of any kind should only be trusted when they pass the individual’s own subtle process of approval. When something is right or wrong for the individual, they should know it from the reaction in their “gut” or “heart”. These are two centers with subtle discerning mechanisms. Listening to your gut is a skill that may need to be relearned. Many individuals have muted this perception and have replaced outer data and opinions as a more accurate gauge.
Over-thinking muddles the use of the self-censor. It’s a form of using another person’s experiences to override the experiences from your own memory banks. We do this when we defer to professionals. This is fine to do as long as it doesn’t activate your gut feeling. That’s when we make choices for ourselves that “just don’t sit right”. We give over our power to the expert. The individual’s gut reaction is always the expert in their own affairs.
Children need to be taught to trust their own discerning mechanisms. When children are young, adults substitute their own experiences as a way of keeping them safe. But as they grow, they need to learn how to discern for themselves. Their experiences and life journey is different from the adults that guide them. They need to be respected as spiritual beings with their own spiritual mission.
Instilling fear in others is done constantly with religion, politics, culture, and families. The individual needs to recalibrate their gauge for knowing what is beneficial for themselves and what is not. The gauge for choosing everything in your life, down to the tiniest detail, should be how it resonates in your body. If it creates a tightness or a “knot” in the body then it’s probably not a good direction for you.
The goal is to have a lightness of being and a feeling of inner expansiveness with every decision of your life. Hone this body mechanism to take inventory of yourself and know where there are problems in your life where you have given over your power.
And if you get tightness in your body when you are around certain people, maybe it is the people themselves and not the experience you should avoid.