I recently facilitated a session with a client and a huge distinction was made between Joy and Happiness. People are in joy and run after happiness. If someone leaves Joy to search for happiness, then happiness is a lie. That is what my client was struggling with.
People think of happiness as the ultimate truth. But happiness can have different grades, like sweetness. There is a huge difference between an organic pear and processed candy. One may prefer the candy but it leaves their taste buds distorted to not be able to taste the organic succor of the natural fruit.
These are the world of duality; meaning every positive has an equal opposite. So happy stints will cycle into sad stints.. This is the cycle of life. The higher reality is contentment. Contentment is like the organic fruit. It is sweet and pleasant but we take it for granted and prefer the stimulating rush of the synthetic sugar.
SO the problem with happiness is when people come out of their contentment to achieve the feeling of it. Feeling the happiness instead of being happy may be the difference between being grounded and centered and chasing a lie.
Here are some examples:
Exhausting one’s self during the holiday season to manufacture a special day as opposed to enjoying the splendor of each day.
Having to buy special items to feel happy; shoes, clothes, electronics.
Being unhappy if things don’t go a particular way instead of just being happy regardless.
Making a new event about celebration instead of enjoyment; weddings, babies, birthdays. etc.
Needing a special occasion to value someone else.
Having the news, celebrities, the calendar, or a relationship dictate whether we are happy or not.
If any of this resonates, you may want to do these EFT taps:
(Say each statement three times while tapping on your head and say it a fourth time while tapping on your chest.)
I release coming out of my center to find Happiness; in all lifetimes.
I release being whitewashed in happiness; in all lifetimes.
I release confusing organic Joy w/synthetic happiness; in all lifetimes.
I release using happiness as a form of denial; in all lifetimes.
I release the glass ceiling of Happiness; in all lifetimes.
I release being imprisoned in happiness; in all lifetimes.
I release the belief that another person holds the key to happiness.
I release wasting energy conjuring up Happiness; in all lifetimes.
I release confusing feelings and ideologies for happiness; in all lifetimes.