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Perpetuating Positivity

On the surface consistently positive people seem weak. But it’s much more difficult to be positive than negative. It takes much more discipline, authenticity and effort than following the flow of gossip and back biting. Practicing the art of perpetuating positivity is a great way to live with purpose and integrity.

When talking to others, it’s easier to feel a sense of belonging by trashing everyone and everything. This negativity seems to take on a life of its own. One simple unflattering statement about another person or situation seems to be the hole in the damn that gushes forth a stream of negativity. How easy it is to start complaining about current events as a common ground. But as difficult as it is to abstain from negative comments, it’s easier than trying to stop yourself once you start.

To hone your character try lovingly countering a negative subject matter with a positive point about the same subject. See how it feels to inject positivity rather than negativity. It may surprise you how exhilarating it feels to break free from the negative stream with a simple positive or neutral statement.

If you don’t want to participate in gossip without being confrontational, just don’t respond. Just give a very short polite response to the person. A way to perpetuate positivity is by using positive reinforcement. Reward uplifting statements by engaging in conversation with the perpetrator. If conversation turns negative, politely excuse yourself. Realize that it’s not about judging, it’s about how the words make you feel. Judging is a negative behavior. Be loving and kind without being pious or playing the blame game.

Also pay attention to your own words and thoughts. You can only consciously live your purpose if you are clear of the muddy waters of negativity that try to keep you blinded to your truth. Faulting others is another illusionary way to feel superior. The reality is that it reveals your own character flaws.

Take a moment and read these words and see how they make you feel: Hate, depression, illness, fighting, death, sadness, blame.

Now read these words: Joy, health happiness, laughter, Love, Fun, freedom.

Words have a vibration and influence your mood and the mood of the environment. Choose to be happy by surrounding yourself with positive words and people. Feel the vibration of uplifting words resonate within you like music.

Be a leader. Pull yourself out of the muck of a negative thought stream and be the influence to pull those around you out as well. You will resonate with happiness and draw happiness to you. It takes a lot of character and if done consistently, will bring you into peace.

17 Comments on “Perpetuating Positivity

@organicguru
June 8, 2010 at 10:48 am

Wherever you go, whether it is on the train, grabbing a cup of coffee or just listening to the radio, you hear perfect examples of this all the time. People are constantly knocking down someone or something else to give themselves a boost. This is especially evident in young people and the number of high profile bullying cases in the news. It is a shame that more people don’t take the high road and try your suggestion.

Your example of simply looking at the negative words does create a negative response. That is fascinating! The converse is true as well. This is something that you really would not pay attention and was a very good point. I will incorporate your suggestions and appreciate the advice. Thank you!

@ToddWeissCFA
June 8, 2010 at 1:13 pm

People have a choice to be positive or negative. The funny thing is whatever, choice you make, people that think alike with gravitate towards you. This can have a powerful impact on the quality of your life. I find most aren’t even aware of the negative they project and attract. If becomes a vicious cycle. This post give some good perspective. Make a choice. Be more positive. It takes effort but in time you’ll surround yourself with positive energy and see things differently.

Stephen Graves
June 8, 2010 at 1:14 pm

Jen’s comment about resonating is interesting. An ideal quality of leadership is the ability to lift those who follow you higher. The continuous communication of value and worth of the person results in a positive transference that enhances both the giver and the receiver. Thus the flowing waters are kept fresh and by both absorbing and radiating positive words and values, you refresh both yourself and others.

@cindyvriend
June 8, 2010 at 7:51 pm

Your example about the vibrations of words and how they influence your mood is so true! And examples of that are all around us every day. I remeber when i was younger and didn’t want to go to school, i pretended to be sick. But as the day went by i truly started to feel not so well… maybe because of the negative attitude and thoughts.. who can tell?

i think of myself as a positive person. I’m always trying to find smiles in the little things of life and truly believe that being positive will attract happiness.

One of my favorite quotes is: My religion is very simple. My religion is kindness. – Dalai Lama

I wish more people would pay attention to be more positive in their thoughts and words, it can change the world around you. Thank you for this great article!

@SerendipityJane
June 9, 2010 at 7:17 am

Hello Jen,

Thank you for the up-building post. Negative thoughts can trigger powerful negative spirals. They actually limit our ability to think clearly and see things in perspective. I remember that very well because I used to have a lot of pain which would get me into the gloom of being doomed (also called the Nocebo Effect)

I like this post simply because I’m a positive person and I love to ruin people’s bad moods by making them smile. I usually ask them whether what they are angry about now should be worth shortening their life-expectancy and whether people who anger us should not rather give us the gift of learning about ourselves – so not why use them as mirrors?

I have a hash-tag on Twitter which I created to cheer people up that need a smile – feel free to use it anytime: #smilepidemic

All the best,
Lydia

@CharlesTaggart
June 9, 2010 at 12:27 pm

In a world with so much negative people & things happening, sometimes it is hard to be positive, but it is always worth the effort… Great article on how to try to turn Negatives to a positive!!! I really like this part in your article; “Faulting others is another illusionary way to feel superior.” This is so true, better to be humble, and try to except others for who they are, we all came into this world the same way, best to make it as good as one can…

I also like to think to what my Grandmother use to say to me- “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything” & “You get in life what you put in”… Positive attracts Positive and negative attract Negative, both repelling the others some… Best to try to surround yourself with good people that look up and see the light, then always looking down into the shadows… I think Smiling and Laughter is also a key thing too, to being Positive and feeling good… One thing my Great Uncle use to say- “Those lines around one’s eyes aren’t Crows Feet, their Happy lines that show how much one has smiled and laughed during their lives”… I think this is so true!!!

Again, Great Article!!!

Debra
June 15, 2010 at 1:36 am

Many times positive, kind people are mistaken for weak when in fact, kindness and positivity is one’s greatest strength. As you stated, it is much easier to be negative than positive. I know, for I have been on both sides. I had no choice as a child, but I certainly did as an adult. Positive self-talk, self-awareness, cutting negative thinking off right in the middle of the thought and not allowing it to finish, being kind to myself, removing myself from negative energy turned my life around many years ago.

Most of the time, the negative individual has no idea of the negative energy they let off because they do not know how to look at themselves; they have no self-awareness. That is a very difficult task to conquer for some. Quite possibly born into it, they know of no other way. There are many reasons and explanations why a person can be negative. It is easier to blame someone or something else. I still maintain there is no such thing as resolve in blame. Actions resolve, not blame. And taking action to be a positive, kind loving soul may be difficult practice in the beginning as it does take work. Eventually it becomes the part in you that you love best about your self.

Be the captain of your own ship and stay positive and in control of your own actions. In not allowing others to change your mood, you realize you are in control of you, no one else has that control over you but you. Everyone gets angry from time to time, it’s only human. While anger can be a negative emotion, it does not have to consume you and it’s best not acted upon. Practicing Aristotle’s Challenge can help put that anger into perspective, let it pass through you, and move on with your life.

Thank you very much for this post, Jen. I know it will help many who need it!

auntjen
June 15, 2010 at 1:01 pm

I am so glad you took some helpful tools away from this article. I just think it is so mportant because people think that they need to make earth shattering changes to change themselves. The reality is that the changes that they desire are made in the quiet moments of everyday living and not with the wave of a wand. Everyone would love to be a real hero but the fact is whenever someone else is putting someone down or spewing negativity, and others don’t engage them, they are being a hero.

auntjen
June 15, 2010 at 1:03 pm

Thank You for your insights. being positive can impact every aspect of your life.

auntjen
June 15, 2010 at 1:03 pm

ThankYou!

auntjen
June 15, 2010 at 1:06 pm

Thank you for your thoughtful reply. I have seen that same example many times where people call in sick and then become sick. It is very interesting. I think the champions of the world are the ones that can find the smiles in every experience. Thank you for being a champion.

auntjen
June 15, 2010 at 1:08 pm

Thank You! I like how you mention the Law of Silence. There is nothing more powerful than adding your disapproval of negativity by not engaging it. It is very effective and I highly recommend it.

auntjen
June 15, 2010 at 1:16 pm

Thank You so much for your thoughtful and articulate response.

Remember that
October 7, 2010 at 7:01 pm

It’s love that makes the world go round

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October 10, 2010 at 5:00 am

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October 10, 2010 at 1:25 pm

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