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Energy Vampires

Who are the Energy Vampires in your life? They are the people that make you feel diminished just by being around them.

We exchange energy constantly with others. Did you ever encounter someone in public and with just a slight smile or small greeting; they seem to get louder and more obnoxious? They are reacting to your attention. It is like they have ingested intoxicating ambrosia that they can’t tolerate. They have. It was you giving them your energy in the form of attention.

If you are aware enough to recognize this kind of reaction in others, then you will be able to realize that you have some control over it. Visualize your energy field as a pristine globe of Light. Visualize an outer casing of your energy field as an unbreakable glass. It is clear enough to look through but impenetrable. Visualize this protective shell when you are out in public.

Energy Vampires are the relationships in your life that are draining. It is people who keep you on the phone for hours, demand that you listen to their gossip, or take credit for your ideas. They may flatter you to keep you engaged or criticize you if you try to pull away from them.

The important thing to recognize with draining people is that in all cases, they rely on some kind of engagement on your part. You agree to listen or are complacent with your boundaries. This is your spiritual lesson to realize that you must find the strength within yourself to close off your energetic field to them. It is as simple as not engaging them but sometimes very difficult to do. This is your spiritual homework.

Energy Vampires use social politeness to keep you stuck. They may be the friend that is using your good presence to make them selves more popular. They may be a boss who uses your talents and passes them off as their own. In many different ways energy vampires find a way to empower themselves by using your strength. It also happens in families.

On an energetic level, energy vampires are almost literally putting a straw in you and drinking from your energy field. There is no way to address them politely in social settings but they must be addressed. Outwardly it is sometimes awkward to separate from a person or situation. Sometimes inwardly it is a battle for your own psychic space. It must be done for you to regain your balance and wholeness.

When you put off creating good boundaries, it is because you may receive something from the encounter. You may rationalize that they don’t know any better or you feel helpless. It is important to know that as comforting as any dysfunctional relationship may feel, nothing feels better than self empowerment and freedom. And feeling helpless is a key indicator that it would benefit you to change the dynamics.

A very subtle way to get you to succumb to them is by catering to your ego. An energy vampire will use flattery as a way to keep you receptive to them. It is a sneaky way to keep your defenses down, your heart open and always receptive to being drained of all that you have.

To disconnect from energy draining dynamics it’s best to disengage from tiring relationships as much as possible. There are times when the energy vampire is in your immediate family so it is difficult to remove them entirely from your life. In that case, always keep your relationship with them brief and superficial.

It is important to share your dreams and aspirations only with those who are totally going to empower you. Once a person uses something that you have shared with them against you, know that you cannot continue allowing them to be privy to your inner sanctum.

Unless absolutely necessary, don’t ask favors of others. Doing so is a way to give them access to you. Don’t expect anything from anyone.  Being self sufficient will go far to keeping your energy field intact. Know that every gift and blessing comes from the Universe. Individuals are merely used as a means to distribute them. So try not to feel overly indebted to others. It is a way give them power over you.

Being responsible for your own physical and emotional welfare is another way of not opening yourself to energy vampires. Relying on others is a form of being enslaved. It is in everyone’s best interest to be emotionally and financially independent as much as possible in a society. Live guilt free and self centered.  Self centered means you are centered within your self . You can’t assist anyone else unless you ARE centered in yourself.

7 Comments on “Energy Vampires

Evita
May 17, 2010 at 6:15 pm

Great post and points.

My personal way of dealing with this today, is no participation. It has taken awhile and I am still not perfect at giving way to energy vampires, but I have come a long way and today understand more than ever the value of silence or no participation.

@organicguru
May 26, 2010 at 12:50 pm

This is such an excellent reminder of how to ward off the negative that I am actually going to print this out. I could not agree more about the way energy vampires drain the happiness out of your life. It takes a lot of practice to recognize the signs and to handle it in a manner that will not drain you of your own energy.

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auntjen
May 26, 2010 at 1:37 pm

Just being aware of it is a huge step in the right direction. Awesome!

auntjen
May 26, 2010 at 1:39 pm

Thankyou for your thoughtful reply. I am glad if this article has helped in any way.

@SixDegreesofDCW
May 30, 2010 at 1:10 pm

Wow Jen, all of this is so true. The thing that kills me the most about Energy Vampires is that they usually always come under the cover of truth and good intention. They tend to pick out all of the things that they believe to be wrong about you, yet are never willing to pick out the plank in their eye. They can do no wrong, so to speak.

Yes, I have been highly affected by energy vampires that steal your thunder, pick you a part, take your time when they need something, but unwilling to assist you with your needs. It really is ALL about them in a selfish, yet they have this miraculous way of pointing the finger at you as if you’re the one. You’re right, people who are affected by individuals like this just have to take the high road or just choose to not be around energy vampires. Of course, some of us don’t have a choice.

auntjen
June 15, 2010 at 12:54 pm

You may not have the choice whether you can be physically around them but you always have the choice to not engage them. Energy Vampires use our vanity as a a weakness. They engage us in a way that makes us tend to let down our defenses and allow them in. They are very good at scanning us for our weaknesses. Most of them don’t realize that they play these pschic games but they do. It is very difficult to call a vampire on their game. So it is best justt to emotionally distance yourself from them if you are not able to physically do so. Thanks so much for your reply.

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