There are those who still think it is necessary to be a sounding board for other people’s problems. Our physiology is not equipped to process all that a person who has access to the plights of the whole world can bring to us. One person can be a carrier of enough devastating news to weigh even the lightest soul down. But usually a listening ear doesn’t stop at just serving one person. The give their services to many, many people.
Some people are equipped to lend a sympathetic ear. But if you are feeling tired or drained after listening to others, if you carry a lot of muscle ache in their upper back or shoulders, or if you are having problems in their own life, you should forgo the listening agenda until you return to complete physical and emotional well-being.
Some people define themselves as a good Listener. In their mind, it amplifies who they are. But if it is crippling their quality of life, it is not worth the dubious honor. Especially when so many are still naïve as to the toxic effects of pouring their issues on each other.
Here are some taps to be free of the compulsion to listen to others who perpetually have problems.
I release being a septic tank of other people’s problems.
I release being a septic tank for world affairs.
I release measuring my level of Joy by society’s standards.
I release basing my self-worth on how pleasing I am to others.
I release needing to be a good listener, in all lifetimes.
I release basing my self-worth on my ability to listen, in all lifetimes.
I release martyring myself to others’ problems, in all lifetimes.
I recant any vows of martyrdom, in all lifetimes.
I recant any vows of humility, in all lifetimes.
I recant any vow of self-deprecation, in all lifetimes.
If you have a problem with this post, I suggest you do the taps anyway. We sometimes resist most strongly what is of the greatest value to ourselves