Our countenance is assembled one thought, one intention, one fear at a time. What we reflect out here is a compilation of that. Some people are so stuck in what they have created because it is woven so tightly that it seems impossible to change.
A great quick way to break up the tight-assed grip of who we have become is simple. Change our colors and wardrobe. Wear bold prints and bright colors. Mix and match. Do this only in the house at first. It will be really irritating to some. Try it with your spouse. If they are set in their ways they will not like changing. But then they may become a little more open and accepting in general.